I have a MAJOR problem and am trying to figure out what to do. Hillary has lived and breathed sports since she was little. She always had a ball in her hand since she could walk. She has always been so active going from one sport to the next. This year she decided to drop out of volleyball and concentrate on basketball and softball. It was so strange not to be going to a sporting even but SO nice. She worked her butt off in the off season and secured a spot on Varsity basketball. As a junior she should have been there already but because of 10 seniors this year she thought she would only play JV. She was the only junior out of 4 to make Varsity. So about 3 weeks ago she came home and showed me her finger. She said the ball came down on it. I wanted to take her to the ER but she said no. The coach told her to soak it and put ice on it and it would be okay. I wanted to take her but
she said what can they do for a finger. I let it go. Then after a scrimmage she said she really needed to have it looked at. So we went. The doctor at the out patient took one look at it and said its broken. X-rays showed a fracture. He told her to take 2 weeks off. She said no wait... what else can I do. He was really rude to her and very condescending so we left. They gave her a splint and told her to leave it on. So she would take it off and wrap her fingers together and play and put it back on. I decided to take her to an orthopedic doctor who specialized in sports. We went there and they said its fractured at the joint and growth plates. The told her she was done with basketball for the season and she possibly needed surgery. She just started crying. When we left she said she is not having that surgery. She looked broken. I know if she does this she will just be broken. I know sounds stupid..its just a game ..but when you are 16 1/2 and have worked 1/2 your life for this moment I know where she is coming from. We are going back on Monday. She wants to keep playing and wants more options. They told her that she could have a stiff finger for the rest of he
r life, it could be deformed, it could stop growing. This is the 4th finger, top joint of her right hand. She is left handed. She said she would give up softball if she had to and run track but she is not giving up basketball. At what point of your child's life do you step back and thing about what it was like at that age. When do you give them adult decisions. Dan said to let her make the decision. He said she is almost 17 years old and is a very smart young woman. She isn't a child... yet she is! I have tried to tell her that in the grand scheme of life ..this is just a sliver and she has her whole life ahead of her. But it is just a finger! Dan said if at 45 he wished just his one finger hurt...he said he hurts all over some days. She has such a good head on her shoulders. I don't want to squash this dream. The nurse said to me...what if she can't hold her babies because you didn't take proper care of this. That about choked me up... Hillary said... I have 9 other fingers and I think I would be okay... always the voice of reason. Twenty years ago I don't ever or even 10 years ago..i have NEVER heard of anyone having surgery on a broken finger. We will go in there on Monday with an open mind but I know my daughter. She is very adamant about w
hat she wants in life. She wants to play basketball! She wants her name on that board...she wants to be a CAREY BLUE LADY DEVIL!!! PS... I forgot to mention...she has already played in 3 JV games and 2 Varsity. She hasn't scored in Varsity but... first JV... 8 pts.. 2nd Jv game... 10 pts... 3rd JV game.... 10 pts...and its ALL with a broken finger!!
she said what can they do for a finger. I let it go. Then after a scrimmage she said she really needed to have it looked at. So we went. The doctor at the out patient took one look at it and said its broken. X-rays showed a fracture. He told her to take 2 weeks off. She said no wait... what else can I do. He was really rude to her and very condescending so we left. They gave her a splint and told her to leave it on. So she would take it off and wrap her fingers together and play and put it back on. I decided to take her to an orthopedic doctor who specialized in sports. We went there and they said its fractured at the joint and growth plates. The told her she was done with basketball for the season and she possibly needed surgery. She just started crying. When we left she said she is not having that surgery. She looked broken. I know if she does this she will just be broken. I know sounds stupid..its just a game ..but when you are 16 1/2 and have worked 1/2 your life for this moment I know where she is coming from. We are going back on Monday. She wants to keep playing and wants more options. They told her that she could have a stiff finger for the rest of he
r life, it could be deformed, it could stop growing. This is the 4th finger, top joint of her right hand. She is left handed. She said she would give up softball if she had to and run track but she is not giving up basketball. At what point of your child's life do you step back and thing about what it was like at that age. When do you give them adult decisions. Dan said to let her make the decision. He said she is almost 17 years old and is a very smart young woman. She isn't a child... yet she is! I have tried to tell her that in the grand scheme of life ..this is just a sliver and she has her whole life ahead of her. But it is just a finger! Dan said if at 45 he wished just his one finger hurt...he said he hurts all over some days. She has such a good head on her shoulders. I don't want to squash this dream. The nurse said to me...what if she can't hold her babies because you didn't take proper care of this. That about choked me up... Hillary said... I have 9 other fingers and I think I would be okay... always the voice of reason. Twenty years ago I don't ever or even 10 years ago..i have NEVER heard of anyone having surgery on a broken finger. We will go in there on Monday with an open mind but I know my daughter. She is very adamant about w
hat she wants in life. She wants to play basketball! She wants her name on that board...she wants to be a CAREY BLUE LADY DEVIL!!! PS... I forgot to mention...she has already played in 3 JV games and 2 Varsity. She hasn't scored in Varsity but... first JV... 8 pts.. 2nd Jv game... 10 pts... 3rd JV game.... 10 pts...and its ALL with a broken finger!!
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